All relationships are different and when I talk about these signs I see of a good Daddy, of course not all of them will apply in every circumstance, and there would obviously be some I’m missing.
It’s just that, I’ve seen littles dive into relationships and getting hurt. When you are alone, the wait for your Daddy seems endless, but it’s still important to be cautious. While there are many good people out there, there are also many manipulative ones as well.
With that said, what I find to be signs of a good Daddy are…
*When he wants to gain a deeper understanding of you as a little.
In my lifetime I’ve talked to quite a few Doms, Daddys, etc. They have all asked about my kinks, when I started getting into “the scene”, very basic questions. Then they would proceed to wanting to become more involved. However, unlike my Daddy, none have asked me why I find certain things appealing. For example, with spanking. Does it turn me on because I’m more interested in the physical pain or the mental discipline? Do I enjoy spankings because I’m being a naughty girl, because I’m being used, because I enjoy humiliation, etc.? Before Daddy and I began to play, he asked numerous in depth questions so he could understand my needs, and to see if both of our needs meshed. He still continues to ask me questions and this is because he cares about my needs; it has so much to do with our development as a couple.
* When he wants to know more about and cares for the woman, not just the little.
If Daddy did not care about my big girl side, it would put a big toll on our relationship. Unfortunately, I can’t stay in my little state of mind 24/7. I have school, work, family, friends. My Daddy cares that I do well in all aspects of my life because it is part of his responsibility. He is there to guide me, and not just because he has to, he is genuinely interested in me as a person. Aspects of my big girl life affects my little state of mind and vice versa. If he were to focus on just one part of me, I would not be balanced. In my opinion, I think even if a little is not in a traditional romantic relationship with her Daddy, he should still show some interest in more than just her little side (just as a little should show interest in Daddy’s life).
*When he can admit he’s wrong.
As perfect as Daddy seems, he is human. We are all human. On the occasion Daddy does happen to make a mistake, he does not try to cover it up, place the blame on someone else, or avoid it. He will own up to it like a man, like any decent person should. When I have talked with other young or new submissives/littles, many will seem to have this idea that their Daddy/dom is perfect and can do no wrong, that any mistakes are their own fault.
*When he does not force you to call him Daddy.
I don’t think I called my Daddy “Daddy” until a few months into our relationship. I remember when I first did call him Daddy, it was in certain scenes. Then, it progressed to me calling him Daddy in normal conversations and him actually becoming my Daddy. He would have never forced me to call him Daddy or Master, because he understands the importance of being a Daddy and all the responsibilities that come with it. I mean, if you’re fine with saying Daddy early on, then that’s perfectly fine. I just recommend for littles to stay away from the men who demand you call them Daddy or Master as soon as you meet them.
*When he cares about your safety and well being.
My Daddy puts great stress on making sure I’m safe and have a good mental and emotional balance. Before getting into a scene, he will “test” things out. He will actually try on restraints to see how tight would be fine for me, if it would get overbearingly uncomfortable, etc. He also wants me to text/call once I get home after my drive from his place.
He knows I’m an extremely emotional person who deals with anxiety, and I’m telling you guys, I can get pretty complicated and twisted sometimes. I can take one thing and warp it into something completely different. This doesn’t scare him away, and he doesn’t get upset or tired of dealing with it. He always emphasizes to me how important it is for me to let him know how I’m feeling, so he can help me and keep me balanced.
*When he is forgiving.
Little girls make mistakes. Little girls are still learning. Especially if you happen to be young, you are most likely still trying to figure out who exactly you are. A good Daddy should remember this, evaluate each situation carefully, and choose whatever discipline necessary accordingly. A good Daddy should communicate to his little girl what went wrong, why it was hurtful/rude/bratty, etc., how to avoid this in the future, before issuing any punishment. I’ve seen quite a few who will say, “punishment is no contact for a week” and not even give much of an explanation as to why this has to happen. (I don’t really recommend “no contact” as an effective form of punishment anyway).
*When he is willing to discuss rules.
Communication is vital in any relationship, so sometimes it baffles me why some Doms will have rules and not even want to discuss them. Discussing doesn’t necessarily mean changing rules, but it’s a good idea so that you can get a better understanding of why certain rules are in place. It may so happen that certain rules don’t need to be in place, or should be added, because each relationship is different.
And again, this isn’t some definite or *official* list, hah. I just see little girls throw themselves into these relationships where they manipulated and hurt. As difficult as it is, please be patient fellow littles. You will all find your perfect Daddy eventually, and it will be well worth the wait.
This is pretty much what goes through my mind whenever I talk to potential daddies. Do they come across as just kink-focused, in which case it feels like any girl would do if they would only say yes? Or are they interested in ME, in what makes me tick, what inspires me, why I like the kinky things I like and my thoughts about my littleness? ‘Cause I know I’ll be asking them about their lives, why they like what they like, and wanting to get to know them— all of them. I can’t tell you how annoying it is to ask “Why do you like babygirls? Why do you like being a Daddy?” and getting a plain “I don’t know, I just do.” You’re going through the effort to meet little girls in one way or another, why not go through the effort to reflect upon yourself? You don’t have to have everything all together, you can still be learning, but don’t approach me like you’re going to just do this for an hour or two and move on to the next play. I don’t need you to totally hold my hand 24/7 (unless that’s what we end up agreeing on, ha!) but I need to know my Daddy is my Daddy as much as he is my best friend, my lover, my companion and I don’t think that’s something just anyone can do. I don’t need to do kinky things all the time, but I’ll need my Daddy, and I hope he’ll need me, too.
Please Read. *nods*
As a daddy I support this fully.
- Daddy
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